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Essays and insights on communication breakdowns, coordination problems, and reducing everyday friction for families and small teams.

This space is for longer-form thinking — not announcements. Each post explores a specific coordination or communication problem that shows up in real life, why it happens, and what helps reduce the friction around it.

Why I Built Recipes for ComingUp Today

Recipes are more than instructions — they’re memories, traditions, and shared life knowledge. Here’s why I built the recipe system in ComingUp Today and why it matters for families and friends alike.

Why I Built Recipes for ComingUp Today

February 25, 2026

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5 min read

dev diary
family legacy
recipes

Control vs Visibility: Why Most Tools Optimize the Wrong Thing

Most scheduling tools optimize for control and permissions. Families, however, need shared visibility. Understanding this structural mismatch explains why coordination friction persists — even with shared calendars.

Control vs Visibility: Why Most Tools Optimize the Wrong Thing

February 22, 2026

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4 min read

Family Coordination
Dev Diary
Shared Visibility

Coordination Debt: The Hidden Cost of Assumptions

Coordination debt builds quietly in families and small groups. Every missing detail, duplicated event, and assumption about responsibility adds friction over time — creating hidden costs that compound daily.

Coordination Debt: The Hidden Cost of Assumptions

February 21, 2026

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5 min read

Family Coordination
Dev Diary
Shared Visibility

Why Context Changes Everything in Family Coordination

Context transforms information from data into understanding. Just as AI generates better results when given more context, families coordinate better when meetings, appointments, and activities include shared clarity beyond just time and place.

Why Context Changes Everything in Family Coordination

February 21, 2026

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5 min read

Family Coordination
Dev Diary
Shared Visibility

Why Individual Calendars Don’t Scale for Family Coordination

Personal calendars work well for individuals, but when they’re stretched across multiple accounts, privacy choices, and relational responsibilities, they fail to provide reliable coordination for families and small groups.

Why Individual Calendars Don’t Scale for Family Coordination

February 21, 2026

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6 min read

Family Coordination
Shared Calendars
Dev Diary

Invisible Friction in Family Coordination

Everyday coordination breaks down not because of calendars, but because families lose context — the invisible friction that leads to missed plans, stress, and conflict. This article explores how shared visibility (not shared control) can reduce that friction.

Invisible Friction in Family Coordination

February 16, 2026

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5 min read

family coordination
context loss
scheduling friction

How Homeschooling and Remote Work Blur the Lines Between Roles

When remote work and homeschooling happen under the same roof, the boundaries between parent, teacher, and worker dissolve. This article explores how that transformation affects time, attention, identity, and family life.

How Homeschooling and Remote Work Blur the Lines Between Roles

February 12, 2026

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5 min read

homeschooling
remote-work
family

A Read-Only Calendar for Co-Parenting When Communication Is Hard

When every message turns into conflict, even simple coordination becomes exhausting. This is why I built a neutral, read-only scheduling tool for co-parenting.

A Read-Only Calendar for Co-Parenting When Communication Is Hard

February 5, 2026

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4 min read

co-parenting
divorced parents
family scheduling

Why Shared Calendars Break Down for Families (And Small Groups)

Shared calendars seem like the obvious solution for busy families and teams — until they become overwhelming, fragmented, and unreliable. Here’s why they break down in practice, and what people actually need instead.

Why Shared Calendars Break Down for Families (And Small Groups)

February 4, 2026

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6 min read

family coordination
shared calendars
scheduling problems

How to View All Family Schedules in One Place (Without Sharing Edit Access)

Families juggle multiple calendars across devices and platforms, but sharing full edit access often creates more problems than it solves. Here’s a better way to see everything in one place — without losing control or context.

How to View All Family Schedules in One Place (Without Sharing Edit Access)

February 3, 2026

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4 min read

family schedules
shared schedules
read-only calendars

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